Tips for the Next Generation

Welcome the Nudging

Way back, in days of yore, when Gen X’s were getting out of college, we too felt overwhelmed by much of the career search. And we didn’t even have the internet or social media sites such as LinkedIn. We often felt clueless about our career path and may have gotten a tad snarky about family meddling. Yet, we were practical, understanding that other people’s parents, and a larger network, just might provide the sounding board we needed. I quickly learned the power of researching, cold calling and asking for advice from adults I admired as my sounding boards. These adults were frank, encouraging, and opened my eyes and doors. Decades later, it’s fun to pay it forward.

Today, college students are discovering the power of connecting with family friends, extended relatives, and even unexpected adults. Unlike immediate family members, these connections—like Aunt Laura, Uncle Ray, or a neighbor—offer fresh perspectives and real-world insights, helping students navigate career planning with more confidence and less stress.

Building a career-ready network can be daunting, but informal, low-pressure guidance from a family friend can bridge the gap between classroom theory and real-world careers. Here’s how to bring family friends into your journey:

1. Take Pen to Paper
   Before reaching out, jot down thoughts: What’s your dream job? Which industries excite you? What do you want to avoid? This reflection clarifies your goals and makes it easier for family friends to offer meaningful advice.

2. Identify Potential Mentors in Your Circle
   Consider family friends, relatives, neighbors, or even adults you meet while working or volunteering. Even if they aren’t in your ideal field, people with diverse experiences can offer valuable insights on skills and career attitudes.

3. Reach Out with Purpose, Ask for Their Story, and Be Open to a Nudge
   When connecting, be clear about your goals and share your career interests. Ask about their personal career path and, if appropriate, invite them to be a “nudge buddy”—someone to check in, encourage you, and keep you on track. This vulnerable approach fosters genuine support.

4. Just Visit the Gosh Darn Campus Career Center
   Don’t overlook this resource! Whether it's top-notch or just adequate, the career center provides information and opportunities you might miss otherwise. Recruiters are actively looking for students and offering on-campus interviews, resume drops, and training programs. Sometimes, a little charm with the front desk can keep you on their radar.

5. Follow Up with Gratitude and Organized Tracking
   Send a thank-you note or email after each interaction to show appreciation. Keep a record of dates, notes, and reminders to stay organized—a skill that’s key in any career.

By following these steps, students can tap into a network of family friends ready to provide guidance, encouragement, and valuable connections.

As the old folks say, “You can get by with a little help from your (adult) friends…”